As a coach, one of the most complaints I have from new clients is that they have read the book, attended the seminar, downloaded the latest audio self help file and still aren’t making the progress they would like to be making. Surprise! There is more to helping yourself grow than reading book, attending the seminar or whatever you are doing. If it was that easy, everyone would be content with their life. The secret of moving further down your path to self help is……asking for help. Sounds counter to the whole self help thing, doesn’t it?
Let me explain.
Have you ever read a book and was totally enthralled by it? Thought you caught every little nuance, knew all that you could know. So you tell your friend about and they mention something that you had totally missed. You probably thought how did I miss that? You missed it because you were so wrapped up in it that you there was no way you could see everything. We are like that; especially with self help. We see what we want to see. Sometimes it takes someone objective to push us to that “aha” moment.
As I said, we are like that with our self help. We get so caught up in it that we don’t see the whole picture, how it relates to our specific situation. That is when we need to ask for help. Ask for someone to guide us on how to use that newly acquired knowledge in our life. By being objective, and listening to your story, they can illustrate how you can apply the information to your life.
So, what kind of help should I seek out? Here are some options for you to consider:
- Seek out a mentor
- Talk to a pastor
- Share your goals with others
- Hire a coach
- Lean on a friend
These are just a few of the options you have available. But, don’t be afraid to ask for help. We were never meant to exist alone, as an island. We were meant to be part of a larger community, sharing experiences, pain, grief and our joys.
Feel free to share a time when you had to ask for help.