In a previous post I discussed lies; I thought I would write about honesty today. Honesty is defined by dictionary.com as:
- the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
- truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.
- freedom from deceit or fraud.
Throughout our life, we are involved in relationships – with our clients, our friends, our families, our co-workers, God and finally ourselves. Each of those relationships gives us the opportunity to be honest. How honest are you in those relationships?
So lets look at how honesty can affect each of those relationships.
Being honest with clients is important because if you get caught being dishonest to a client you lose all credibility. Once you lose credibility, it is hard to regain with that customer. Also, clients will tell other potential clients that you are dishonest and you will lose them as well. How can be honest with clients. First, tell the truth always. It is better to say you don’t know than to give an answer that you don’t for sure is true. Don’t lie by omitting things. Lies of omission are lies too. Don’t exaggerate. Second, do what you say. If you have a deadline, meet it. Over deliver and under promise. Finally, remember that you goal with a client is to help them, not make a sale. When you do right by the client, you are rewarded with a lasting relationship with repeat business and possibly referrals.
True friends will speak the truth even if it hurts. Most people have enough “friends” that tell them what they want to hear, so be a true friend and tell them what they need to hear. Never lie to a friend. Friends can last a lifetime, if you are honest with them.
Our family deserves our honesty at all times. We live with them, they are our harbor in tough times. The closest families thrive on openness and honesty. Lies cause disharmony which destroys families. Being honest is vital to the strength of the family unit.
Dishonesty amongst co-workers decreases productivity and efficiency. This will eventually hurt the business. Also, dishonesty among co-workers can cause violence in the workplace.
Our relationship with is built on honesty. While God knows everything, for us to have a close relationship with God, we have to be totally honest with Him.
We have to be honest with ourselves before we can be honest with others. If we are dishonest to ourselves, we don’t know the truth. Therefore, we can’t be honest with others. Our greatest relationship, on earth, is our relationship with ourselves. Everything we are starts within us. Our true self is from within, the outer trappings are not always what they seem.
Finally, if you are a leader in your organization, community or family, you set the tone for honesty in your circle. Your circle will only be as honest as you are. What example are you setting?