One of the main things I see as a coach is people trying to find themselves. People are unhappy with who they are and want to find out who they really are. Sometimes, they tie their identity to their career, their spouse, their title or other things that aren’t who they are.
To find out who you are, you can’t look outward, you have to look inward. Who you are comes from within. Your heart, actions and words make you who are.
So, lets look at few things you can do to find out who you are:
- Find your passion. Look at what really makes you happy, what gets you enthused. List out steps to realize that passion.
- Learn to depend on yourself for your emotional needs, not others. Don’t let other peoples opinion of you determine your emotional state. Learn to accept that you can not make everyone happy or like you, nor should you try.
- Take some time to be alone, meditate and listen to what God is trying to tell you. Remember, your activities do not make you. Sometimes, we have to slow down to move forward. We can become so busy that we lose track of our purpose and passion.
- Running from problems only allows them to grow bigger. It is easier to deal with things when you first become of the challenge than it is when it is left unchecked.
- Ask yourself questions. Record the answers. Some questions you could ask include:
- If I had all the resources I wanted, what would I do?
- What legacy do I want to leave?
- What words would I like to have describe my life?
- Who am I?
- What do I want to do so that I will not regret?
- How am I impacting others around me?
- Try to make amends and create a clean slate to move forward. Ask for and give forgiveness. Truly let go of the past and embrace the present.
- Act on what you found out about yourself. Without this action, nothing will change.
- Be ready to face pitfalls and challenges. Nothing in life worth having comes without challenges.
- Finally, find ways to serve others. Serving others allows you to positively impact others. Serving others can show you that your problems are minor to what are others are going. Serving others also gives you a sense of what really matters.
Truly finding yourself allows you live your one life to the fullest, fulfilling the purpose that only you can fill.
One of the ways I help as a coach is to create a vision statement for your life by asking some of these questions. This starts the process and gets the client thinking about who they are who, not what they do.
Feel free to discuss and let me know what you think.