For a while now, I have thinking of scars. Scars are left from both physical and emotional hurts. When we are hurt, physically and emotionally, we are left with scars. What and how we deal with them is the measure of a person. For the remainder of this post, I will discuss emotional scars.
A scar is left only after we heal. As long as the hurt is still there, the scar won’t form. We have to leave the hurt alone, so that the scab can form and eventually give way to the scar. If we continue to pick the wound, the scar will not form. If we emotionally let the hurt continue, the scar won’t form. We stay emotionally wounded.
Only by accepting the wound (hurt, grief, etc.), dealing with wound (asking forgiveness, being accountable for our action, etc.) and finally letting go so the scar can form can we be healed.
Everyone has scars that make us unique. Our scars are special; they make us who we are. Some people try to hide their scars; others never let the scars form. To fully heal, we have to accept the wounds and allow our scars to heal. Scars should be displayed with pride. They show that we have healed from our wounds. Scars are a beautiful process.
If we are without scars, we have never taken chances or have never allowed the wounds to heal. Neither is a healthy way to live the one life we are given.
As a way of opening the dialog on our scars, I will share a few scars in my life. These scars have shaped me into the person that I am, not the person that the wounds represent. It has taken me a long time to accept and embrace my scars, but as I continue to grow, I have to embrace the scars that make me the person that I am. So, here are some of my many scars:
- A failed marriage because of my mistakes
- Pornography addiction
- Dysfunctional family as a child
Each of the scars has formed only as I overcame each wound. Each scar is representative not of the wound, but of allowing the wound to heal. To hide the scars, is to not be true to the person I am now. The scars are my testimony; not of my strength, but of the grace, forgiveness and love of God. Without the scars, I would still the miserable person I was in the past.
So, I will leave you with this quote by Harry Crews “There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with.”
Please comment and if you would like, discuss your scars with me. I understand.